Boarding School: Part 2

Monday Memoir BadgeLast week I introduced readers to my first boarding school experience at Kaptagat Preparatory School.  The school was fourteen miles from the nearest town of Eldoret in the Rift River Valley of Kenya, East Africa

Boarding school was an expensive privilege.  My parents considered the vast number of activities and programmes offered by the private school to be an advantage.  My father’s frequent absences from home and my mother’s poor health made boarding school a good decision.  The school promised to turn out well-educated students with the skills necessary to be independent and possess leadership qualities though the education and discipline provided by Kaptagat Preparatory School.  Sometimes you fail.

Class size varied between 25 and 30.  The general behaviours of students was good.  Teachers in today’s classrooms have to manage student behaviours that would not have existed nor tolerated in the 1960s.   If bloody  and damn were the worst ‘naughty words’ we knew, uttering them within earshot of an adult would never have crossed our minds.  Children were encouraged to be seen rather than heard and boarding school was no different.  Opinions were not encouraged; to offer one would have been to question authority – not okay in the 1960s.

Misdemeanours were measured in unfinished homework, being distracted in class or not knowing where  pick up in the class reading when it was your turn.  We would not have thought of raising our hand because we did not understand something or even ask for clarification.  That would have been to question the master’s ability to explain it adequately in the first instance; we did not question anything an adult said.

Regular as clockwork I sat in detention every Saturday between 3 and 5pm.  In my neatest handwriting I wrote one hundred lines:  I must learn my times tables that covered my arithmetic shortcomings.  The following hour another hundred lines stating: I must learn to conjugate my French verbs.

There is no reasonable explanation – my adult opinion – for that kind of stupidity from the teaching staff who were quite annoyed when I still could not recite the times tables or conjugate French verbs the following week.  I had no idea of what was required of me and would no sooner have questioned the lines than I would have asked how I was to learn times tables or conjugation of verbs.   Clueless.

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The girls’ and boys’ dormitories were on opposite sides of the school playground.  The boys had a number of dormitories supervised by the school masters who lived in the same block.  The girls’ dormitory was one large room separated from the school sanatorium by a door.  It was the same door through which Matron burst to deliver gruff instructions or admonish someone.  We were encouraged to mix with the boys and I do not remember any instances where any of us overstepped the boundaries.  We played sport with the boys and classes were mixed.

First bell rang at 6.45am each day and we had forty-five minutes to get ready for breakfast: wash, get dressed and to make sure our beds had perfect hospital corners and no crease or wrinkle in the candlewick bedspread.  Pyjamas were to be neatly folded under the pillow, dressing gowns on the labelled hook behind the doors.  Classes started at 8.40am and the learning day was broken into eight lessons that finished at 3.45pm with a break for morning and lunch recess.  Games followed the school day and lasted an hour after which it was bath time.

Kaptagat Girls Bathroom

Women tell you where child birth is concerned there is no room for preciousness about one’s dignity or privacy.  Boarding school teaches you from an early age that privacy is for the home would not be tolerated in the school system.  Standing in line in my bloomers and vest and we waited in turn for matron to hoist our undergarments off.

“Hands up.  Leg up.  Other leg.  Into the bath and standing please,” she ordered each child.  We watched as each girl was scrubbed pink with a block of Lifebuoy soap that left our skin prickling and our faces flushed from the harshness of Matron’s rubbing.  Then we were handed our towels and made to dry ourselves before being allowed back in to the dormitory to dress.  The same bath water did for three of four girls and one after the other we bathed in each other’s effluvia.

The photo above was taken in the early 2000s and I do not know the person pictured.  What I can say is that, with a little less mould,  the bathroom looked exactly as depicted:  concrete floors, stand alone bath tubs side by side and planks of wood on top of concrete blocks.

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The jar of cuticle cream was confiscated after the first week.

“But Matron,  Mummy gave it to me to remember her.”

“If I let you keep this then every other child will want their bits and pieces.  It wouldn’t do at all.  You’ll get it back at the end of term.”

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The transistor radio escaped Matron’s hawk eyes and I was careful to keep it under my pillow with the volume so low it was a muffled sound that comforted me to sleep.  When the radio stopped working I was faced with having to ask Matron to have it fixed and that was to risk having it confiscated or having to ask one of the school masters.

Mr Judd’s artwork filled the classroom walls, one had statues and temples in a garden and the other wall depicted an African scene in the jungle.  Maybe my love of history started in his classes which were interesting and I listened well and watched as he drew on the blackboard illustrating the lessons.  To remember the lessons he handed out hand drawn sketches that we pasted into our books and coloured in for homework.  Who wouldn’t love a class where learning happened vicariously through an artful medium.

After art class I asked Mr Judd, our art and history teacher, if he would have a look at the radio.  He would look at the radio if I brought it to him after school.

“Does Matron know you have a radio?” he asked.

“No Sir.”

“There must be something quite seriously broken because I cannot fix it.  It doesn’t need batteries because I tried new ones and they didn’t work.”

“What will I do now if I can’t sleep,” I asked

“Perhaps you can think about what you did today and what you liked about the day,” he suggested.

“Yes Sir, thank you for trying.”

“Sorry I couldn’t fix it.  Is there somewhere you can put it away until mid-term and take it home?” he asked

“I’ll put it in my cabinet at the back, Sir.”

My parents were not able to visit at mid-term break and I stayed at school with Matron and Mr and Mrs Chitty.  I slept in the same bed I did during term time except now I was on my own.  The lack of the school day routine made the hours drag by and when the children returned to school at the end of the break it signalled a return to the safety of a structured day.

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I spent three years at Kaptagat Prep School.  The memories retold in these two pieces are the most vivid.  Other memories are bizarre enough for me to question whether they actually did take place.  They remain part of my psyche.

When my father was transferred back to South Africa at the end of 1962 my family left Kenya.

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At some point I do intend to write about how boarding school influenced me and the the impact these early years at boarding school had on my development as a child and how I feel it has affected my life.   Research is beginning to emerge about the responses of those who are placed in the boarding school system from an early age.  This research provides comfort and validates many of the behaviours that have become an innate part of my personality and character.  However, that time is not now.  Writing these pieces has brought memories rushing back and I need time for those to settle again so the reflection is able to take a balanced look at the good and the not so good of those early experiences.

43 thoughts on “Boarding School: Part 2

  1. I stumbled onto your blog Linda while I was reminiscing of my days in East Africa. I too went to Kaptagat Prep School and was there from ’65 to ’68. I remember arriving there somewhat bewildered on my tenth birthday. My younger brother who came with me was eight. I was born in Kenya, but our parents at the time lived in Dar es Salaam so we were at boarding school for the first time with our parents living in a different country.

    I remember my first term as a pretty miserable time. Lonely and friendless. The beds were uncomfortable and smelt of urine. I suffered bouts of diarrhoea; I don’t think the kitchen and dining room were the most hygienic places. Sentenced to hours standing waiting for Chitty outside his office, sent by a prefect on the a charge of some misdemeanour. I eventually befriended another lonely pupil who had just arrived, a Polish boy from Uganda with a poor grasp of English (I remember his name). I still have vivid memories of my time there, noting that you and other respondents shared similar experiences.

    The teachers were tyrannical in their approach. The only one who had any kindness in his heart was Archie ‘Frisky’ Fraser. He never once gave me an NS on those terrible occasions when I was on report card. Mrs ‘Ma’ Chiitty caused the greatest dread; the boy next to me used to wet his pants before she had even entered the classroom. During my first week, Jupp threw one of his famous tantrums on seeing me gazing out of the window during his history lesson. Anything on the teacher’s desk that could be a projectile was hurled at me. That includes the whole box of blackboard chalk and wooden blackboard duster. He then placed the classroom bin (a used cooking oil can painted maroon) over my head emptying its entire contents, pencil shavings and all, over me. Some seemed to cope but for others it was obviously hard. A lonely girl (I also remember her name), who I think was victimised by Chitty, seemed to be forever on report card.

    Yes, the cane was used quite liberally. I remember my first day on report card when anyone with an NS got three strokes from Chitty. I also remember him bringing his cane onto the rugby field and dishing out six to anyone who didn’t tackle low.

    As for the bathrooms, the one in boys boarding house was similar to the one in your photograph in the girls’ section. There were four cast iron enamelled baths and two wash hand basins. We used to line up starkers and were directed to the baths by the matron. One boy at each end. The water that went in was pumped from the river and was brown in the first place, but became even more discoloured after several boys had used it. On one occasion, after getting into the bath, I discovered a turd floating in the murky depths.

    As my parents lived so far away, I relied heavily on other boys and their parents to take me with them for exeat weekends, and for that I am forever grateful. Being left alone at the school was a grim proposition. I recollect getting a lift with Brian Lomax, one of the respondents above (or was it one of his brothers?) with his father to stay on a farm (Kampi ya Moto I think) at the invitation of another Kaptagat boy.

    When I left Kaptagat, my parents sent me to a boys’ Anglican boarding school in Rhodesia, also out in the middle of nowhere, an even harsher place. By then I had adapted somewhat to boarding school life, but it was not easy for those junior boys attending for the first time. Same disciplinarian approach and no frills boarding environment with compulsory cold showers in the morning after the get up bell at 6am. Bullying was rife and the head house prefect could punish with the cane up to two strokes.

    In all, I spent eight years at boarding school. Now in my later years I look back and reflect on how it has moulded me. I have mixed feelings. I went on to study medicine at the University of Cape Town later specialising in pathology, and I wonder whether I would have ever attained those qualifications without the discipline instilled in me during my life as a boarder. Jupp at Kaptagat inspired a lifelong love of drawing, painting and art in general. People still remark on the quality of my handwriting, all due to him. However, it has undoubtedly left scars which my wife has fortunately recognised. In the end, although times have changed, I am glad it’s something that my children have not had to experience.

    I now live in Australia.

    Jonathan Allin

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  2. Hi Linda, thank you for sharing your memories of Kaptagat. I too was a boarded there briefly around 1966/67 when Chitty was still the headmaster. I recall getting the tacky for forgetting my PE kit, having Milo chocolate drink in the evening, sharing a dorm with a girl called Julie O’Darker – but honestly, not much else. I have a photo of me in the uniform sitting in the front row of what looks like the school in a hall.

    I was taken to the UK by my mother in 1968 and put into a state boarding school in Essex. All the kids were from broken homes (my parents had split up in 1963/64, my mother living in Tanga and then back to Eldoret and my father living in Uganda with his wife and the two children from her previous marriage). When my mother remarried two years later I was sent to another boarding school where I remained until I was 16.

    The weird thing I find is that although I always told people I had a happy childhood, the reality is that I can’t actually remember much of it at all. In adult life I’ve often wondered whether that in itself tells a story …

    Thank you again for writing here, I hope you’ll return to it when you can. I’m so glad you’ve found a place to be happy in Oz!

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  3. Hi Linda, thank you for sharing your memories of Kaptagat. I too was a boarded there briefly around 1966/67 when Chitty was still the headmaster. I recall getting the tacky for forgetting my PE kit, having Milo chocolate drink in the evening, sharing a dorm with a girl called Julie O’Darker – but honestly, not much else. I have a photo of me in the uniform sitting in the front row of what looks like the school in a hall.

    I was taken to the UK by my mother in 1968 and put into a state boarding school in Essex. All the kids were from broken homes (my parents had split up in 1963/64, my mother living in Tanga and then back to Eldoret and my father living in Uganda with his wife and the two children from her previous marriage). When my mother remarried two years later I was sent to another boarding school where I remained until I was 16.

    The weird thing I find is that although I always told people I had a happy childhood, the reality is that I can’t actually remember much of it at all. In adult life I’ve often wondered whether that in itself tells a story …

    Thank you for writing, I do hope you come back here with more when you feel able to. So happy you’re in a happier place in Oz!

    Best wishes for 2024 🙂

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  4. Oh wow! Thank you for posting about Kaptagat. I also went there when I was 5. My brother and I were living in Uganda and were sent there to keep safe. I still remember so clearly the sharing of baths and to see the photo you posted really jolted my memory.

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    • The memories I have of that time have sparked other’s to recall similar experiences. It was the first time I’ve shared these so validating to have people recall their same lived experiences of the school. x Linda

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  5. And yes, The bathroom was just that. A room with about 8 baths, as in the picture. Stand in a queue outside the bathroom. 2 to a bath. a few minutes, then shouted out by matron, next 2 in. Same water.

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  6. I said in a previous comment I was at Kaptagat between about ’62 and ’68. From reading your ‘story’ nad memories, I can identify with so so much. Even reading these comments evokes memories of being whipped across the back of the legs by West. Of crying and crying under the sheets at the start of term. Of being caned by chitty for not know my 7 times table. Of Jupp hurling chalk at me. It was truely awful After Kaptagat I then went to another boarding school in UK until I was about 17. I hated that as well. I have struggled with maintinging meaningful relationships, including with my siblings. And YES, they were referred to as the ‘cuts’ where chitty would beat us either 3 or 6 times, at lunchtime. Clear bruising and occasionally blood. YES it did happen. I’m now happy in a patch of paradise in NZ!!

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    • Yes my brothers and I too. We also came to NZ in 72 after our farm was taken by the president.
      Kaptagat had had an awful affect on us to this day.

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  7. hi, sorry for what you went through in the school,well i was there in the year 1998-2001,
    our parents took us there because of the prestige it held, high education performance, the great standards, you alumni set foremost, your success, we admired your pictures on the walls,we wanted to be like you, study in great universities in UK,USA. Kaptagat muolded us to be what we are today.

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  8. Wow, even though I knew you went away at such an early age, it is quite intense reading of your experiences. Thanks for sharing, as it is interesting to ponder over such contrasts in our upbringings. You are such a great writer!

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    • I visited last year, the school is run by a church group and very run down but its all still there as
      it was when I was there in the mid 1960’s

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  9. Oh gosh, I’ve just read both parts of this and while I didn’t go to boarding school, a hell of a lot of this is very reminicent of my experiences in a very not-out-of-the-Victorian-era hospital that I was in a lot during the mid to late 1950s. I can understand why you found it difficult to continue this piece of memoir. My own experiences at the hospital are very difficult and often painful for me to recount let alone remember in detail, and these for you, must have had similar effects on your psyche.

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    • Those years certainly impact my psyche Val and many behaviours learned to cope in those formative years are still my defaults. I’m still working on the boarding school reflection piece so it will sit alongside these – one day. 🙂 Linda

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  10. Hi,
    I too was at kaptagat from 1967-1971.It was a tough and bewildering place for an only child aged 7yrs.On a positive note it certainly taught me how to survive, and that has stood me well in my adult life.However it also left its scars.I remember being caned (not the norm for girls)for returning from an exeat weekend with some chewing gum.This was against school rules.It was 1 piece that i had chewed and thrown in a dormitory bin.Being the first back at school it was spotted by matron and reported to the head.Monday morning i was called to the office and given 6 of the best by the heads wife Mrs Chitty.This was administered on a bare bottom!!Six cuts to the flesh and couldn’t sit down for days.To add to the punishment i was put in ‘coventry’ (not spoken to for a few days) by the whole dormitory.Like i said,it was tough.
    On Saturdays we would queue in alphabetical order down the playing field to arrive terrified at Mrs Chitty’s office on the veranda to choose 2 items of ‘Tuck’ (sweets).She would only allow you a few seconds to choose or you were sent away with nothing.Our parents paid a few pounds for this once a week treat.We were expected to stand in silence and not move about whilst awaiting our turn.Alphabetically i had the misfortune of standing behind 2 brothers who used to take great pleasure in giving me a kick in the shin or worse sticking the needle of a compass into my leg.I never did get a detention for jigging around in that line-up as the incentive of our only delicacy once a week keep me still and quiet whatever agonies i had to put up with.I did however get plenty of detentions for other misdemeanours and wrote plenty of senseless lines.
    One such detention was awarded because i inadvertently called the matron ‘Mummy’ whilst collecting my clean socks from matrons room on the 2nd morning of term.An easy slip of the tongue having been at home for the holidays.
    Yes Kaptagat was very victorian in its rules and regulations.No school would or could run along these lines now.We are a product of our era and our upbringing to a large degree.I have sometimes wondered if i could ,would i change those years there.They were certainly not as a whole happy years.I still have no answer for that.I have many many memories that are rich and still very detailed,some good others not.Regardless they are all a part of me being me.
    Would i have sent my child to ‘A Kaptagat’?
    Hell No!!

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    • Six cuts to the flesh? This is utter rubbish and a slander. You might have got the ‘tackie’ ( a slipper) – in the 60’s and 70’s this sort of punishment was rife in all private schools and agreeably abhorrhent. We all went through various stages of terror in those days- namely from the bullies and games teachers who had their own specific means to a special form of sadism – undetected of course. Don’t you think you should get over your precarious and rather inprecise exaggeration? Boarding school in those days showed a discipline that now seems to as us utterly draconian – perhaps you were unpopular ? To my mind , most people who exaggerate all the detritus of boarding school life in those days, generally were. In which case you have my sympathies- it must be truly awful not to be able to make friends.

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      • What an unkind reply. You cannot contest someone else’s memories. The account of ‘6 cuts to the flesh’ is very accurate and true. I experienced it for talking after lights out, noy know ing my tables and getting an ‘NS’ on my report card.

        I am very interested to read your account. I had a truely awful time there. About 1962 to about ’68. Jupp, Chitty, Tax, Fraser, West, Hindley. The only half decent one was Fraser.

        I too had to spend half term in the scholl as the only person, except for 2 teachers.

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      • By the sounds of it it affected more than you know. Think you may have amnesia.
        The Chittys and others were sadistic awful people and were very able to inflict pain gleafully.

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      • What a nasty
        Comment. I…. And my brother went through the same experience. Detention twice a week. Report cards. The dreaded 3 NSs in a week. So many stripes on our butts. And when you saw those on 5year old kids. Unbelievable it was accepted.

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      • What an absolute twat. You were obviously not there or delusional. I for one and 2 brothers went through the same thing. Ma n Pa Chitty Absolut narcissistic controlling demons. Glad he went the way he did. You have NO idea what some went through. Nut job.

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    • Hi Rachel. Your name rings a bell. I was much the same as you. Detention every wed. n sat. Because of me I was told Sandringham didn’t get to go to Cockhouse. Only award I got.

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  11. Hi Linda I went to Kaptagat Prep between 1961 and 1965 and along with many others had a fairly traumatic time of it. I am writing Kenya memoirs mainly for the next generation – nephews nieces etc and in an attempt to come to terms with the Kaptagat influence on the rest of my life. I would be interested in anything else you have done on those early years of school. I now live in Victoria, Australia.

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    • Hi ‘dc’ in one of the posts I said that I would write a reflection on those times but as you can see that hasn’t happened yet. The emotions remembering evokes are still raw so many decades later. The reflection is percolating. My research leads me to understand that we are not alone in our childhood experiences of boarding school. Unfortunately (or fortunately) I was at Kaptagat for a few although my time would have coincided with your time there. We left Kenya about the end of 1963. Take care 🙂 Linda

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  12. Children then were merely objects to be formed into what those in power (religious) thought they should be. They were not allowed to have a personal identity separate from that. So many children were scarred for life by the Catholic education system.
    Your post has made me think more about how my own Catholic education (brain-washing) affected my life.

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