NaBloPoMo: Healing: Why Is it Difficult to Talk About Race?

There are a number of reasons I think we (white people) find it difficult to talk about race. None of us enjoys conflict especially such an emotive issue as race. Conflict is uncomfortable and when we feel threatened (and therefore vulnerable) we prepare ourselves to either stay and fight, or look for a way out (flight).

We may avoid talking about race because – as the dominant culture (white) – we realise that there is a portion of blame to which we must take responsibility. Perhaps not individually but certainly as a white collective eg. colonisation On the other hand we may recognise our ignorance on the topic however much we listen to the media.

Where I live the media is most certainly ‘white’ . It takes effort to research the issues personally, there is so much literature simply knowing what to source from where can be overwhelming … so maybe we do nothing; it’s too hard. Perhaps the most insidious of all is that we have a subconscious (white) superiority complex.

Many do not understand their birth privilege and continue to hold the values and beliefs of birth families. Our sense of entitlement comes with privilege. Anything that messes with our ‘right’ to behave in certain ways threatens our sense of who we are … and that’s all too often just too hard.

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4 thoughts on “NaBloPoMo: Healing: Why Is it Difficult to Talk About Race?

  1. It’s only hard because people can’t move on and stop blaming the people for something in the past which we have nothing to do with. I am not white and I am sick and tired of hearing non-white people bash the Caucasians. Racisms run both ways. You are right, it requires maturity from both sides, tolerance, and willingness to let go of the past!


    • I also think racism is fuelled by poverty, marginalisation and stereotyping and a lack of honest equal opportunity. Letting go of the past is difficult when ethnic groups continue to live in the consequences of past injustices. Thanx for stopping by 🙂


  2. You raise an interesting point Paula inasmuch as we are often deemed to be the guilty ones but when do we stop paying the price for our ancestors’ treatment of Blacks? It is difficult to talk about race, especially with people of colour, when emotions are running high. It takes maturity on both sides to be able to have a rational discussion, which in my experience, leaves both sides with more questions than answers. Thank you for visiting 🙂


  3. I don’t find it at all difficult to talk about race. It’s just that I, as a white person, am not really allowed in the discussion. And where I live is mostly white media, as well, but they only report about race when it makes the white people look bad. I am sorry for what blacks went through way back in the 1800’s but slavery ended in 1865. Not me, nor my most recent ancestors had a thing to do with it. I am tired of apologizing to people who will never get over it!


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