Do you believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder? Or do you think there is a basic standard of beauty that everyone agrees upon?
There is a truth reflected in the saying: Beauty may be skin deep, but ugly is to the bone. Why? Because beauty is more than how someone looks.
Good looks and pleasing body shape are the wrapping of beauty, the exterior, the covering of what lies beneath. What lies within, beneath the visible, is from where true beauty emanates. If kindness, compassion, generosity, thoughtfulness, love, patience, form part of a person’s make up it complements the good looks and, yes they are beautiful. Equally true for men as it is for women. On the other hand a mean and angry spirit, narcissistic tendencies, and selfishness are seldom redeemed by good looks. The ugliest people may well be considered good looking until their personality is exposed.
As much as beauty is pleasing to the eye it is uplifting; it enhances a sense of well-being. Looking at someone who is both physically attractive as well as a decent human being draws others to seek their company, engage them in conversation, learn more about them. Looks and behaviour attract us to each other. Initially we may be attracted by good looks which I think is a primal sexual hang over. We hear that that it was love at first sight. No it wasn’t. It was sexual attraction at first sight, love came later because sexual attraction is involuntary and unconscious. In the after glow of the first meeting we analyse what it is we find attractive. At that point we think about the thick hair, broad shoulders, strong handshake, warm smile, easy laugh, outgoing, political interests, enjoys the outdoors, large breasts, curvaceous body, long blonde hair, blue eyes, well groomed, poised, non-smoker, my mates like her, good teeth and so on.
Our attraction to someone is underscored by our adaptability shopping list and like any shopping list we are all looking for certain elements in our partners and friends. So yes beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Any universal standards of beauty are perceptual and rely on visible attributes before behaviours.
Posted as part of the NaBloPoMo February 2015 Event